Dr. Dae Sheridan

Ask Dr. Dae

So, Dr. Dae, would you consider decreased intimacy as a symptom and not a cause of strained relationships?

Great question! A lot of that depends on gender and perception.
Many men express love and affection primarily through physical intimacy, thus would feel resentful, angry or hurt if that intimacy was diminished… for HIM, it would be the cause of the strain on the relationship.
On the other hand, most women need to feel love and affection in order to be physically intimate, thus any resentment, anger or hurt she is feeling would lead to decreased intimacy… for HER, that would become a symptom of the strained relationship.
The good news is, regardless how different we are… no matter where the disconnect stems from… with communication, commitment and compromise there is a way to find happy common ground!
~Dr. Dae

 




Welcome

My practice is unique in a way you may not find in other therapy offices.  I pride myself in running a boutique practice with a select group of clients who are ready to do the work necessary to create the life they have always wanted.

You will not be rushed out at the 50 minute mark, you will not be charged for phone calls, e-mails or texts.  I believe that everything happens for a reason and have a strong sense that there is a reason you have found me.  I am always humbled when someone trusts in me to join them on their journey. I take that investment very seriously and I am diligent about creating returns on that investment that are life changing.

After our initial session, you will walk out with a goal, a sense of movement forward and a plan for personal growth and development.  You will be treated with care, compassion, true positive regard, hope, enthusiasm, humor and research based treatment modalities.  You will not be on the couch for the next several years.  The intuition based cognitive behavioral therapy that I provide is impactful, empowering and usually brief.

Take the first step in making yourself and your well-being a priority in YOUR life.  I can’t wait to meet you!

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Staying Calm and Healthy. You’ve Got This!

There is so much conflicting information floating around right now.  Many of us have concerns for our safety and well-being during the age of COVID-19, so let’s talk about it!

First of all, I’ve got some good news! The strategies and tools that we use in everyday life to keep us HAPPY AND HEALTHY are just as available to us now as they were before all of this.  Let’s take a moment to remind ourselves of that, and perhaps get a little crafty!

Anxieties are fueled by overestimating a threat and underestimating our ability to cope with it.  Most humans experience some semblance of nervousness or anxiety when feeling out of control.   I want you to feel more IN CONTROL, empowered and safe… so we are going to look at small, simple ways to be mindful and take greater control of our environments and our choices.

Many of us choose to spread kindness, LOVE and joy in our lives every day!  Let’s re-frame some of the inconvenient changes in our lives and look at them in a different light.

When we take precautions like washing our hands (for at least 20 seconds with warm, soapy water preferably like this), and practice social distancing, we do so to protect ourselves, but we are also taking a proactive role in providing care and consideration for our most vulnerable community members. By making small sacrifices and following the advice of our trusted healthcare professionals, you’re not just keeping you and your family safe, you’re HELPING others.  That’s something to feel good about!

Some of us have the tendency to over do things, over prepare, over buy, over saturate, over watch.  Let’s take a moment to ask ourselves… have my behaviors really been helpful?  When I overthink, does it make me less anxious or does it create more stress?   We want to avoid toxic stress right now.  It lowers our immune system and reduces our ability to make clear, rational decisions. Here are some things you can do today to gain greater PEACE:

Let’s limit media exposure.  I want you to feel in-the-know, but I also want you to find a healthy BALANCE and some boundaries.  Take a look at what you are ingesting.  Are you satisfied at the end?  Craving more and more?  Are you so full you feel sick?  I recommend limiting your information gathering to one or two trusted sources like the CDC or the WHO.  Get what you need and move on with your day.  Is social media making you stress?  Set a timer and limit your clicks and scrolling.  Instead, grab that book or stack of magazines you haven’t had time to read and schedule time for yourself to engage in some much-needed self-care!

It really is time to take care of you. Tell yourself that YOU MATTER. Put the Calm app on your phone or check out those free Yoga courses on YouTube!

Taking good care of yourself, finding a moment to stretch and to BREATHE will do wonders for worry.  The simple act of breathing calms your parasympathetic nervous system and reduces anxiety reactions.  Two of my favorite breathing techniques are the 4-7-8 method (Breathe in through your nose for a count of 4. Hold for a count of 7. Breathe out through your mouth for a count of 8). and Box Breathing. (Visualizing a box, breathe in for 4 seconds, hold for 4, breathe out for 4, hold for 4 and repeat the sequence.)

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If you need to steady any racing or repetitive thoughts, visualize a STOP sign, lovingly tell yourself to stop (visualizing the sign again) and turn your attention to 5 things you can see, 4 things you can touch, 3 things you can hear, 2 things you can smell and 1 thing you can taste.

Remember your Resolutions.   Proper sleep, exercise and healthy nutrition are crucial to our emotional and physical HEALTH.  Taking time to rest and practicing good sleep hygiene helps reset and recharge fatigued, hypervigilant body processes. A walk around the block increases endorphins, serotonin and Vitamin D which can boost mood and immunity.  Eating as you normally would (instead of inhaling your disaster snacks) helps with mental clarity and sustained energy. Be sure to reduce caffeine and alcohol intake as they can increase feelings of worry, sadness and loneliness.

Be creative with connectivity.  Both introverts and extroverts are feeling a shift as we practice “social distancing”.

Extroverts can find ways to modify their social interactions by scheduling virtual coffee dates and walks.  Book clubs, game nights and movies can all be done via face time.  Host or attend an online workshop or webinar or teach someone the breathing and thought-stopping techniques you just learned.  Get CREATIVE! You can also go old school and pick up the phone to catch up with someone you care about.

Introverts may be stressed about all of the “peopleing” they will have to do while everyone is home together all day.  The thought of no breaks can lead to overwhelm. ASK TO GET YOUR NEEDS MET.  Go for a walk, ask for time alone to read, journal, stretch or watch a show. Remove yourself to regroup and recharge.

If you are experiencing significant anxiety or depression that affects your ability to participate in your usual daily activities, reach out to friends, family or a mental health provider who can offer support, guidance, insight, resources and a compassionate ear. Local Crisis Centers also have people standing by 24/7 to chat with you about any concerns, emotional distress or negative thoughts you may be having.  You are NOT alone.

Remember, it’s natural and normal to fear the unknown.  Empower yourself and shore yourself up by taking small steps each day to control what you can. Stay connected with me and let me know what helps you to feel strong, healthy and connected. LOVE YOU.  Stay Well!

 

 

 

 

 

 

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  • Had a great time at “Mommy’s Time Out”. Dr. Dae was awesome! I have wanted to meet her for a while and she did not disappoint! She educated a room full of moms about sex and marriage. Not always an easy task! Thanks Dr. Dae, Limelight Marketing Consultants, Inc., and The Rack in Brandon for a great evening!

    Rosemary Nickel
    Founder, Motivating Other Moms
  • Wow!  Way to teach a class!!!

    Graduate Student
    University of South Florida
  • You were OUTSTANDING at the Valentine Vixen Workshop! WOW!!! What a confident, powerful and kind hearted woman you are. Thank you for sharing your expertise with a FABULOUS group of 50 women!!! What a turnout!

    Briana Michel
    Founder, Vixens Against Violence