I hadn’t realized there was anything behind that ‘tune out’ time at the end of the night. This is something for me to think about. Why do I choose other chores over spending time with the one I most want to spend time with? Hmm?
For some it’s simply about changing gears and focusing on what’s really important, but for others it can be more difficult. Busy-work can be used as an avoidance tactic due to previous conflict in the relationship or fears about intimacy.
Good for you for exploring this for yourself! Let me know if I can help, because I guarantee that connecting with your partner will be more fulfilling than a load of perfectly folded laundry any day!